A random chance to be a father again for a short while

A random event - this guy had asked to be friends and I rejected him asthere was not enough info about him on his profile. He requested again


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hi john
how are you
hi
nice to meet you as well
ok
how are you you doing...?
🙂 you don't have that long to live to listen to it all
ok well i am sorry john
no need for sorry - ó°€€
john please i am so sorry for that please
it was my personal piece of humor and I was not looking to seek sympathy
well thank you john
well i am so glad to have great person like you in my life as well
thank you ó°€€
well you are welcome
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john Some people can't go a day without coffee. I can't spend a daywithout my best father.....??
Your best father?
oh john yes
because i naver know my bone father in my life
oh?
to be honest to you john....?
i am living with my grandmother......? she is the one who told me that in ever see my father and my mum....
connection with your mother and grandmother are the real connections in life - your mother is a part of her mother and you are a part of your mother
well thank you
but i naver seei her in my life
An old friend Undoori told me of fathers in his culture - they were very strongly family oriented and close to their country - for him he was apart of his mother both his human mother and the mother earth that he lived in - his country. For him there were two special places that he held in common with his mother - the place where he was concieved and the place where he was born
His father was a warrior and it was his role to look after the land
that was so that he could protect his mother and his child and their country
well thank you so much father jonh..? and i am happy with you
may god bless you for the rest of our life
Why? So that your mother could raise you safely in a land protected by men like your father - that was their primary drive in life.
oh thank you
i will really keep you in mine
Dependant on what was happening at the time would determine the ability of the father to remain with or close by to your mother - at times there things that required him to travel to defend his mother country and to do whatever was necessary to keep that country safe for your mother and you her child that she raised
i promis you father john
ok
and my ground mother told me that they die in a car accident 9 years ago ...?
Yes that happens unfortunately and would not have been by his choosing -those are the risks we face simply through being alive
oh yes that is something true
please john can i call you as my father just for the respect i have for you as well.....please?
I can only ever be a substitute father in that respect -  have given you my best fatherly advise take that with you on your journey so that you understand just how important it is to be a partner with those you fall in love with and those who bear your children. The memory that you have a father that can understand you will remain with you for the rest of your life. I am happy for you to look on me as a substitute father until you take your turn in life as a father or carer of your family and the place they are in at that time.
oh well you are my father my mum and my life too
and god make us to meet in my life to be honest
I have never met one however I have met many warriors that simply astounded me in many ways and many mothers who loved their children and their closeness of family - each and every one was a human being the product of millions of years of evolutionary adaptation to their environment. Their continuation is the continuation of all of us but in that journey of life I have yet to meet a god and from what I have learned of the many thousands of gods that have existed they are the sickest and the most depraved who force children to substitute every aspect of their family and connections with others through playing on the fears of vulnerable children. There is no place anywhere in any of what I wrote above for weak men to call on imaginary gods as a substitute for personal courage
well that is very true my great father...?
how old are you
That you are old enough and human enough to yearn for those fatherly connections that a random chance in life took away from you says to me that your are able to look squarely at your reality even if that taste in ways is bitter simply because you need the truth of your life so that in the event that one day you are fortunate enough to be at that place where your child is being born and you get that opportunity to hold them for the first time in your life
What words do you say to them in those first few minutes?
"Between you and I always the truth".
I don't know what your ancestors did with newly born children but mine did some of the most bizarre things such as burying children inpostholesso that the house would be protected from demons and storms,some sacrifice their children to their gods who have an insatiable appetite for vulnerable and defenceless children.
any way i will say that god  is great that will be my first thing to say ...
While men have gods women and children will be at risk and family structures will be destroyed through the insanity that gods bring to our people
oh yes father...
A male can call on mythical pretend gods and while he does so he will never be a man to my eyes.
may god bless you for the rest of you life
oh very very true father...to be honest
i wish i know my parent
and if i see some of my friends playing with they family members inomally get sad
Life can be tough in that way sometimes - one day when you connect with someone that is the chance in your life to be able to make that happen for your child and that brings real peace real comfort  and peace of mind.
and if i see some of my friends playing with they family members inomally get sad...?
are you living with your family there or.....?
The role of parents in the lives of their children has, historically,been one of unquestioned value, celebrated in cultures around the world.And the rights that come along with that responsibility to direct the upbringing and education of one's own children have been consistently honored and upheld.....?
Learn about biology, learn how your memory works, learn and understand that you are an amazing creature with the ability to pattern match along with the best that evolution has devised - spend some time with the reality of what it is to be human and come to that from the basis of science and evidence and you will come to a point where you will understand that you have taken the best choices for your child whenever possible in your life - that is the type of dad every child is entitled to and is the type of dad that we idealise just because we are human.
oh yes father..?
thank you so much....
and i will be your doter for the rest of my life i promises you.....?
You would be a doofer as well as a doter if you were to place me on a ledge above other men and women  and children who have made that journey successfully
so can i send you the picture of my ground mother....?
I do not accept promises as that causes me to put a later test on your ability to think and act in a proper and suitable way later on if we should chance by one another again in life. Such promises are to me a sign of bondage and ownership of humans that religions describe.
that is my ground mother i am living with........?
you are a lucky person as well ó°€€
and i am so sorry for you to know all this from me it is not my wish please ok
father thank you so much...?
She too will feel the loss of closeness with a man she was in love with at that time - hope she gets to tell you of some of those times when she and your father spoke and laughed and talked about what was important to them art that time.
oh yes she use to do that.....?
so that i can remember my parent.....?
and yes for sure there can never be other than a substitute but do not make the mistake of substituting a mythical superstition as your children will suffer in ways that you dare not imagine as it is simply insane to be a human and substitute a god for a lost father and cost the mental health of future generations of your line

father i dont event know how to thank you as well
father are you with your family....?
then off you go and get busy doing it instead of finding excuses etc to not do that
Come back in fortnight and let me know what progress you have made

I am a very proud father of a wonderful person who was my child.
now go as I have given you plenty to ponder and I have things I must do